Symptoms of environment for Disorder in Children

Some of the common triggers for seeds of Mental Disorder in growing up children are as follows – 

  1. Faith

If we can ensure that our children continue to have faith in life which is bigger than any tragedy or pressure or failure, you can sleep fearlessly about your children, as mental disorders will never occur in your family.

However, you probably have no way to know if this is happening. In the past, we had natural faith in religion. Mythology helped us believe that someone is always there to rescue or protect us. This did not let events of life erode our trust in life. 

  1. Death in the Family

If one of the parents or grandparents or someone very close to the heart of the child, dies then make sure that the child cries enough and help the child accept the loss. This has been found as the basis for many severe mental disorders and almost all cases of schizophrenia have one such event. Children from age 7 to 14 are more at risk than children below 7. 

  1. EGO

Allow the child to develop EGO. It’s the ability to defend and survive especially if a father is very strict and/or violent. Little lies to escape the pressure and to exercise free will shall be encouraged and shall be dealt in a  reformative manner by mothers rather than taking a moralistic attitude. 

  • Be alert at the first sign of the child beginning to withdraw from social engagements, friends and choosing aloofness. This is potentially the beginning of depression.
  • Sports help children connect with physical reality apart from achieving zero stress mind every day. Playing an instrument/reading books/creative hobbies helps them connect with their loneliness and does not let their trust in self go down even under very high-pressure scenarios.
  • If you are relocating from a well-networked place to the outskirts of the city (often families buy new apartments on the outskirts and move from a rented house in the heart of the city) and if there is any occurrence of bad/tragic events in the family in the past, as mentioned above, be extremely careful that it may trigger depression not just in children but also in adults. Such depression is not a normal one but a suppressed symptom of disorder getting aggravated. 

Responses

While drawing our algorithm, we start with identifying our symptoms. Do we look at our symptoms of today or from our childhood? Our tendencies also seem like they are about today and not from our childhood. How should I interpret this?

You can start with identifying your symptoms today and make your Algorithm identifying your Lack, Tendency and Pattern. It may seem like the tendencies are loud and clear today. This is only because as an adult, you are either more aware of it, or the tendency is more pronounced. However, if you go back to that age group of 7-14, you will find that the same tendency existed back then as well.  

For example – your lack is abandonment and so your tendency is need to prove/ excel. As an adult, you try extremely hard to prove yourself at work, but maybe as a ten-year-old you wanted to make sure that you win a colouring competition or feel worthy by collecting the maximum number of berries or fruits. 

 So, you would notice how the nature of tendency existed even back then – sometimes subtly, sometimes pronounced. It is just a matter of developing sensitivity to recognize it in that time and space. However, you can always work with current scenarios. 

Now that I have made my algorithm and have identified my lack, what do I do with this? Do I have to re-visit my childhood?

In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified – 

  1.  You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing 
  2. You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath. 

In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness. 

After finding my LTP and mapping my algorithm, I can see how I have suffered in my childhood and continue to do so. What can I do to remedy this and reverse my suffering?

 Since you are seeking the cure, you must know that state of meditation is the state of cure. The more you are in this state, the more you move towards light, thus curing your suffering.  

All the things which come into your awareness, must now be attended to by Observing your breath. For process of attending to what has surfaced, refer to Ques no 8 

Now that I have made my algorithm and have identified my lack, what do I do with this? Do I have to re-visit my childhood?

In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified – 

  1.  You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing 
  1. You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath. 

In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness.