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WHAT IS DISTRESS ?

Distress and stress are two different stages of non-harmonious states. Stress is a feeling of tension or pressure or simply put, burden. It can occur at any level i.e., physical, mental, emotional or spiritual.

Stress is a state where you feel that you are doing something beyond your capacity or willingness. It is not an issue unless it stays for a prolonged period of time. If it grows in intensity, periodicity and time interval, this is where it begins to affect your wellbeing. You then probably feel either a bit down, tired, angry or irritated but your mental body is able to take it and is working out a plan to destress yourself. To feel stable within, you probably plan on taking a break, pausing on certain activities, going out with friends and going on holidays with family. Even if you do not do anything extra, nature has provided the means to reset all stress on a daily basis. Sleep is enough to reset and ground your stress. Staying in love or having sex ground the stress. Pursuing an art form or some hobby helps you remain expanded with your spirit. You are still under control.

Distress is a quantum state. The stress has set in. It is often caused by either the major events in your life or a series of events resulting in a state of hopelessness or loss about a specific aspect of your life. For example, if you are not happy in your relationship, you will still continue to be optimistic about other aspects of your life such as your job, raising kids while living with this nagging feeling about your relationship. It does not interfere with other aspects. It is still a stress and you have hope. Your mind is now working extra hard to contain it so that it does not interfere with other aspects of your life. When the mind cannot handle it, you have various ways to take a break and release the stress and again start managing it. Life goes on. Or so you feel. Gradually your stress begins to erode your overall high vibratory levels affecting quality of happiness in other aspects of your life. It is difficult now for mind to contain. So you have outbursts to release stress.

Then one day, you give up hope. Now your emotions are clouding your mind all the time. You are not able to focus. You start reducing your other aspects to a bare minimum to somehow carry out your life and its responsibilities. You are aware that life is beautiful and you shall continue to find solutions to bounce back but you are not able to pull your energies to work towards it. The stress has now become distress.

Distress is a state where the mind is not able to contain the emotions and they start to interfere with our thought process. Hope is faith. The faith in life.

The reason we suffer is because we have belief that a relationship or aspiration will make us feel complete. When that does not happen, we get hopeless and our faith in life erodes and we look for a distraction to somehow release that hopelessness, through some addictions or another toxic relationship.

If we have a strong focus on issues related to survival, that implies a strong mind (EGO). A strong mind is a mind which is able to contain emotions and does not allow emotions of distress to interfere with it. It depends on what we believe is our issue of survival. For some financial stability is and for others a relationship is and yet for some it is about acceptance from friends and family or some other high aspiration.

The more negative emotions or stress or distress we have to manage;  the more we need to have a strong mind. More it consumes our life force energy. Therefore, less and less is available to the body and any dreams we have for tomorrow. Gradually distress begins to erodes our mental stability and finally it punctures the functioning of the body causing disease. In case mind is not strong, distress begins to interfere with mind and it graduates as mental disorder.

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While drawing our algorithm, we start with identifying our symptoms. Do we look at our symptoms of today or from our childhood? Our tendencies also seem like they are about today and not from our childhood. How should I interpret this?

You can start with identifying your symptoms today and make your Algorithm identifying your Lack, Tendency and Pattern. It may seem like the tendencies are loud and clear today. This is only because as an adult, you are either more aware of it, or the tendency is more pronounced. However, if you go back to that age group of 7-14, you will find that the same tendency existed back then as well.  

For example – your lack is abandonment and so your tendency is need to prove/ excel. As an adult, you try extremely hard to prove yourself at work, but maybe as a ten-year-old you wanted to make sure that you win a colouring competition or feel worthy by collecting the maximum number of berries or fruits. 

 So, you would notice how the nature of tendency existed even back then – sometimes subtly, sometimes pronounced. It is just a matter of developing sensitivity to recognize it in that time and space. However, you can always work with current scenarios. 

Now that I have made my algorithm and have identified my lack, what do I do with this? Do I have to re-visit my childhood?

In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified – 

  1.  You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing 
  2. You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath. 

In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness. 

After finding my LTP and mapping my algorithm, I can see how I have suffered in my childhood and continue to do so. What can I do to remedy this and reverse my suffering?

 Since you are seeking the cure, you must know that state of meditation is the state of cure. The more you are in this state, the more you move towards light, thus curing your suffering.  

All the things which come into your awareness, must now be attended to by Observing your breath. For process of attending to what has surfaced, refer to Ques no 8 

Now that I have made my algorithm and have identified my lack, what do I do with this? Do I have to re-visit my childhood?

In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified – 

  1.  You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing 
  1. You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath. 

In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness.