Seen Parents in the Act- 4

You have seen your parents making love. Now, as you have been reading in the earlier parts of this 4- part series, this experience has a “not- so-subtle” impact on all your relationships as an adult.

Now let’s say that you are in a very good relationship, be it with your parents, sibling, partner or children. However, you don’t feel content in this good relationship. And at the same time, you can’t do without a relationship as well because you have an intense fear of survival. You sustain the element of the dark, to give you the shame which  you associate with pleasure.

 

Then when your partner or whoever you are in a relationship with, has had enough- and wants to dump you, you panic – as your fear of survival has kicked in.

 

 

Now you confess- ”It’s all my fault. Please accept me”. This is how you, at first gaslight, and then grovel in the fear of losing the relationship.

No events happen without a reason and purpose. Any powerful event in your childhood doesn’t happen to ruin you but to provide you with a power supply.

As you were eager to  move on with your life, you didn’t see the power. Now as you begin to reclaim your life force, which is trapped in the event, with your breath, this event slowly converts into wisdom. You gain the wisdom on why it was important for your life journey, that your sexual energy be invoked before the expected age of 13-14. This is where the vision starts to unfold for you.

So, do not let this event just lie there, for herein lies your deepest secret. The more you breathe on this event, the more  insights you will receive, that were hidden therein. And in the course of your life whenever you are in the midst of a problem that seemingly has no solution; breathing on this incident will  provide you the insight.

 

 

This event is a gift for you, in the form of a curse. So, heal yourself by taking away the layer of the curse and you will see the gift.

 

Incase you missed out here are the first 3 parts of this series.

Seen your parents in the act?

 

Seen Parents in the Act- Part 2

Seen Parents in the Act- Part 3

 

 

Responses

While drawing our algorithm, we start with identifying our symptoms. Do we look at our symptoms of today or from our childhood? Our tendencies also seem like they are about today and not from our childhood. How should I interpret this?

You can start with identifying your symptoms today and make your Algorithm identifying your Lack, Tendency and Pattern. It may seem like the tendencies are loud and clear today. This is only because as an adult, you are either more aware of it, or the tendency is more pronounced. However, if you go back to that age group of 7-14, you will find that the same tendency existed back then as well.  

For example – your lack is abandonment and so your tendency is need to prove/ excel. As an adult, you try extremely hard to prove yourself at work, but maybe as a ten-year-old you wanted to make sure that you win a colouring competition or feel worthy by collecting the maximum number of berries or fruits. 

 So, you would notice how the nature of tendency existed even back then – sometimes subtly, sometimes pronounced. It is just a matter of developing sensitivity to recognize it in that time and space. However, you can always work with current scenarios. 

Now that I have made my algorithm and have identified my lack, what do I do with this? Do I have to re-visit my childhood?

In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified – 

  1.  You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing 
  2. You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath. 

In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness. 

After finding my LTP and mapping my algorithm, I can see how I have suffered in my childhood and continue to do so. What can I do to remedy this and reverse my suffering?

 Since you are seeking the cure, you must know that state of meditation is the state of cure. The more you are in this state, the more you move towards light, thus curing your suffering.  

All the things which come into your awareness, must now be attended to by Observing your breath. For process of attending to what has surfaced, refer to Ques no 8 

Now that I have made my algorithm and have identified my lack, what do I do with this? Do I have to re-visit my childhood?

In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified – 

  1.  You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing 
  1. You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath. 

In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness.