Frequently Asked Questions
Headache/ Migraine is a symptom. It is clear and easy to say, if you have a headache the energy is stuck in your head. Energy being stuck in head means there is overactivity there – simply speaking, you are stuck in a loop of thoughts. Follow the steps below to decode your headache:
- Trace back to identify when the headache began – morning, yesterday evening, etc.
- What was the moment of significance before the headache, as you understand every moment is an event. It can be as simple as an argument with someone or non-acceptance of what you heard or got to know. This would be your trigger.
- What is the recurring pattern underneath this trigger?
- What is the subsequent tendency under the pattern?
- What is the lack, which you refuse to acknowledge?
Non-acceptance of your lack is the root cause of your headache. As you follow the above steps you will arrive at your Algorithm. Once you have been able to map out your Algorithm – lie down and begin to observe your breath. Staying with your breath would lead to insights or Yog Nidra – the state of cure.
Yes, you are technically right – headache is a pain. However, when pain shows up on a physical level that means it has punctured your energy body, emotional body, and mental body, and has landed on your physical body. Anything that lands on your physical body means two things –
- Well-being has now gone for a toss
- It begins to interfere with your day-to-day life
Therefore, you need to look at it as a suffering. However, if you apply Science of Cure (Breathing is inversely proportional to thoughts) on your headache, it will begin to take you to the root cause. This is of-course further to the Algorithm that you will create. To arrive at the root cause of your suffering, refer to Q 1. Why do I get a headache?
You can start with identifying your symptoms today and make your Algorithm identifying your Lack, Tendency and Pattern. It may seem like the tendencies are loud and clear today. This is only because as an adult, you are either more aware of it, or the tendency is more pronounced. However, if you go back to that age group of 7-14, you will find that the same tendency existed back then as well.
For example – your lack is abandonment and so your tendency is need to prove/ excel. As an adult, you try extremely hard to prove yourself at work, but maybe as a ten-year-old you wanted to make sure that you win a colouring competition or feel worthy by collecting the maximum number of berries or fruits.
So, you would notice how the nature of tendency existed even back then – sometimes subtly, sometimes pronounced. It is just a matter of developing sensitivity to recognize it in that time and space. However, you can always work with current scenarios.
Every moment is an event, and every event has an emotion. Therefore a lack can be formed in a matter of seconds, which is so miniscule that due to other overwhelming moments of bliss that you may have, it has gone unrecognised and unacknowledged so far.
Lack is the seed of the suffering, so if a suffering exists within you that means that the lack has already been formed. Now it is only a matter of identifying the lack, which means, right in the first attempt you don’t have to reach your 0-7.
Use the below technique to identify the lack from your present scenario:
If you are denied of something that you wish to have, let’s say love, what would you feel
- I don’t matter
- My existence is denied
- I am discarded
If you choose option 1, it means your lack is neglect
If you choose option 2 , it means your lack is rejection
If you chose option 3, it means your lack is abandonment
Crying is only an outburst; it does not necessarily indicate towards a particular emotion. However, try to identify the emotion which lead to the outburst. It can be any one of the emotions mentioned in your Daily Tracker. Once you have identified the emotion, you need to identify a few events of the past where you have experienced the exact same emotion in the same manner.
Also, it is common to see colours in Yog Nidra. For more understanding, read chapter NV Swimming; section How do you know you are in Yog Nidra?
Being sensitive to your ecosystem means to be curious about the triggers which will come from them. We must understand that our ecosystem will be the one to trigger us the most. The higher the proximity in a relationship, the more the chances of a trigger coming in.
If you apply the lens of Algorithm in these triggers, it only becomes an opportunity to turn inwards and work on your lack. A by-product of this phenomenon is relationship getting better. This is the simplest formula to being sensitive to your ecosystem.
In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified –
- You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing
- You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath.
In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness.
Since you are seeking the cure, you must know that state of meditation is the state of cure. The more you are in this state, the more you move towards light, thus curing your suffering.
All the things which come into your awareness, must now be attended to by Observing your breath. For process of attending to what has surfaced, refer to Ques no 8
The Algorithm that you learn here, is actually the algorithm of your suffering. So loosely speaking these are the ingredients of your suffering, and at the same time how your suffering got formed. Once you understand how your suffering was formed, you will be able to reverse the suffering. Having said that it is a much deeper subject, and you should thoroughly watch the lecture again to understand the intricacies of it.
There are 3 lacks, 9 tendencies and 11 patterns. Any permutation and combination of it, can develop into an algorithm which is unique in its own manner for different people. However, it is possible for a few combinations to be similar.
In simple words tendencies are nothing but ego. Ego is nothing but a defense mechanism. In your moment of experiencing lack, you are vulnerable or wounded. However, since we do not have the capability of being in that moment long enough, we quickly need to defend ourselves from that emotion/ feeling, and that is how tendencies are formed.
It is important to understand that these are the events of the past which have been shrivelled and suppressed by you. It is good news, that it is now in your awareness. But for it to completely open up and create its space in your awareness, you must follow the process of defrosting.
To understand defrosting in detail, refer to book Meditation-The Cure, chapter NV Hunting, subheading – Preparation for the Process, Defrosting.
It is possible to have multiple tendencies & patterns. So, continue to map your Algorithm and become aware of multiple tendencies and patterns which will emerge, as this will help you expand your consciousness, and help you understand the various ways you cope with the lack.
Our lack is formed, because in a moment we formed a belief, which makes us feel either neglected, rejected or abandoned. Since we can’t stay with our lack – as it makes us unstable – we go into our tendencies to survive and not experience the lack. This suppression, due to the fear of survival, leads to the formation of Distress, Disorder or Disease.
So, as we identify our LTP, we become more aware of ourselves and dissolve the belief formed therein, hence the movement begins from inauthenticity to authenticity; from distress, disorder or disease to health & well- being: the Cure.
In the moment when your mother wanted you to excel ,did you ever feel like she didn’t accept you the way you were? Or did you feel that to get her love it is important for you to excel or prove yourself? And even as an adult you feel that at some level it is important for you to level up, before she loves you.
If the answer to the above questions is yes, some or all, then you have already found your belief- “In order to be loved I must be good enough”. If you feel like you are unworthy of love otherwise- then you must investigate your lack using the three statements of lack
- Neglected : I don’t matter
- Rejection : My existence is denied
- Abandonment : I am discarded
The seat of your lack is in the subconscious, and what you desire is in your conscious mind. When you have a lack, the heart and mind seem like two opposing forces.
For e.g. you want to follow your heart’s desire and want to be a musician, but for that you need to embrace your loneliness and move towards solitude. However, since you carry within yourself a lack, let’s say abandonment, your mind immediately jumps to a tendency, for example proving self. So you decide to take up a corporate job and quickly move up the ladder. Now as you continue moving up the ladder, the urge to be a musician grows more and more, and eventually your conscious and subconscious mind does not go hand in hand. This is a state of suffering.
The opposite of this is union/Yog, which means merging of the conscious and the subconscious, where your heart and mind become one. The state of meditation is therefore known as the state of cure, so more you move towards the state of meditation the more you will move towards the state of cure.
Therefore, becoming aware of your Algorithm/Lack, and staying with it with your breath, will lead to dissolution of this lack and expansion of your consciousness. This will eventually help you arrive at the state of cure. Remember the process is important
If you understand the nature of autoimmune disorder, it is your body’s immunity turning against yourself and attacking you. This means that at a physical level you wanted to indulge in self harm (consciously or subconsciously), however, that was not an option for you. So, the disgust that you held towards yourself leading to the intent of destroying your body has now manifested in the form of a disease.
In order to connect the event of suffocation you must check that in the moment of suffocation what was the anger that you had towards yourself. Once you detect the anger, you can tie it with the above explanation and use the techniques.
Yes, the seeds get sown in 0-7, however it is wrong to assume that suffering manifests only later in life. Suffering can manifest anytime. However, for a suffering to manifest there has to be a trigger. This trigger is nothing but a peak in hopelessness.
When in any event, where your hopelessness surges enough to crash your ego, the dormant lack which is the seed of suffering, suddenly gets activated and shows up on one of the layers of human body – physical, mental or emotional.
Every moment that we live is an event, and each moment generates emotions within us. It is our unwillingness to address and work through these emotions that results in the suppression or regulation of the same through the mind, which leads to the manifestation of suffering either in the form of a disease, disorder or distress. Disease is the suffering of the body just like disorder is the suffering of the mind. Having a disease means it has punctured you energy body, emotional body and mental body, and has now come to your physical body.
Whenever we are faced with a disappointment, we tend to move into a lot of emotions. However, we never consolidate or move towards acceptance of loss. We only tend to be around whether justifying the loss or grieving the loss, but never acceptance. Pain is the state of transformation. All insights are revealed to you, in the moment of deep pain. Thus, for insights to come and emotions to convert to wisdom it is necessary to be in the state of pain.
In conclusion, pain is the remedy to suffering and disease
Just being in the awareness of tendency isn’t enough because despite being aware of the tendency you are not going to the root cause, which is lack. Our lack is given to us by the universe for a particular purpose such as – an artist may be abandoned early on in life. If he doesn’t learn the lesson of solitude which the abandonment must bring, he will continue to attract events, which will continue to push him towards solitude, until he learns the lesson of solitude. So, find the purpose of your lack/ every event that occurs with you.
Ego is nothing but an instrument of your mind, which is used to keep emotions or hurt suppressed. If you have a strong ego, you are considered a brave and a powerful person, because no matter how difficult the situation is you are not emotionally affected. But this is how people see you. In reality, you are affected as much as a weak person is affected, except that a so-called weak person decides to experience the emotion or doesn’t have ego which is strong enough to control emotions.
If it is a compulsion to feel emotions due to the inability to control them, then it triggers hopelessness, and if it is a choice to experience emotions then it is a function of consciousness.
When no one attends to you, you feel the need to attend to yourself, that is self-pity. You wish someone would tell you – OH! poor you; so much wrong has happened to you, etc. But since there is no one to acknowledge that, you yourself acknowledge it and say – Poor me; so much wrong has happened with me; I am a piece of shit; why me.
So in a such a a situation do you not own the responsibility and question why did I attract this? What pattern of mine am I missing out on? Rather you blame the universe and its people and say that they wronged me.
All the work that happens in this course is based on suppressed emotions emerging (root cause of suffering). As these emotions begin to surface the initial reaction is to have an outburst – crying. However it is important to recognize the emotion underneath the act of crying. e.g. Guilt, Fear & Shame.
It is good to have ego in fluid state.
By the end of the day, it is completely your choice, as to how you want to use your ego in your outer circle. However as recommended in the circle of self, ego should be zero and in other two circles ( family friends + outer circle) you may choose to be fluid depending upon the need of the situation.
Ego is always a defense mechanism, so by the end of the day always come back to yourself, to check what it triggered in you and what you were trying to survive. It is ok to bring the defence mechanism in a solid state as in that moment you are dealing with the rational world, which requires a certain degree of objectivity. Thus in that moment it would seem necessary to bring in ego to process it. However in order to maintain an optimal level of health and well-being you must in your moments of solitude reflect upon that moment where you brought in that ego and question yourself. As you continue to work on yourself, you will begin to see that any such situation doesn’t trigger anything in you, but leaves you with authentic communication and this is where it doesn’t hurt you, and any such situation doesn’t t create a hurt.
Guilt is nothing but self-imposed morality. Let’s say you have guilt of not being a good mother. So you create terms and conditions for yourself, which if you fulfill you begin to feel like a good mother in your opinion. Example : ensuring you pick and drop your child, despite having a bus service; ensuring you are always around your kids, whether they want you or not, etc.
When you fail to check even one box out of the list of multiple things you feel guilty, because in your opinion you have now violated your morality. Your morality is the barrier to experiencing your unworthiness/loneliness. So when you continue to feel guilty for a long time, even the slightest trigger from outside can make you feel shameful. In continuation with the example, it can be as subtle as watching a movie and seeing the mother in the film take her kids to school and back and you begin to feel shameful about self; and on the other hand, a relative telling you something like ” Oh! You don’t cook for your kids”
It is possible to have multiple emotions in one event. For e.g. your father is angry with you and there is an argument underway. The argument is about you spending too much money on expensive things. The spectrum of emotions you may feel in this event are –
1) Fear (of being reprimanded by father)
2) Guilt ( of spending too much money)
The process is very simple – Defrost the event. Continue to breathe on fear
The only way of addressing fear is to allow the fear to pass through you while you Observe your breath so that you become aware of your fears. The more you bring them to your awareness and begin to understand the nature of your fear the more you are able to ground your fear. Also, as you begin to acknowledge your fear it will begin to take to your past events where the fear had gotten suppressed and is now releasing one by one
Follow the process of defrosting and once you have followed the process of defrosting, you will begin to experience the emotions which you felt in that event. If not, lie down and begin to observe your breath post defrosting and stay in that space and emotions will surface on their own.
Let us begin with an example to help you understand the science.
Let’s say you have an irrational fear of darkness and you are unable to be by yourself in the dark room or sleep in a dark room. If someone is next to you, then you either don’t feel fearful in the same dark room or the intensity of your fear reduces. This means at the root of it, you were not fearful of darkness, but you were fearful of loneliness.
Let’s take example of fear of heights – you are standing on top of a multistoried building, but if someone is holding your hand tightly, then intensity of your fear decreases, as it makes you feel safe and protected. This means at the root of it on a rational level it is either fear of uncertainty or fear of being left unprotected or unsafe. What the above example shows us is that at the root of it the reason for fear is something else. But the fear peaks in situations where this root cause is comes out without a barrier. So the root cause is the rational of the fear, and the situation/stimulus which induces the fear such as height, darkness is the irrational part of the fear.
To understand the root cause of any irrational fear OTB on the irrational fear and continue to feel it till you arrive at the root cause.
Whenever you attempt to breathe on an emotion, on a practical level you would experience that its opposing force – thought, will try to interfere, which means you would witness an interplay of thoughts and emotions. So every time you try to breathe an emotion and a thought interferes, witness the thought/thoughts and allow it to pass and gently bring your attention back to the emotion. Don’t be forceful with the transition. If you think there are too many thoughts witness them. Be very gentle with it. As, emotions have motion, so every time your attention comes to the emotion, you will see a shift in its intensity, which means there may be moments where intensity of emotions will peak. Don’t abort the process here. Hold on. Continue to breathe, gradually your ability to stay with an emotion will increase, and you will begin to experience a shift in the time interval, periodicity, and intensity of the emotion.
Thoughts are directly proportional to emotions, which means the higher the intensity of the emotions, the more the number of thoughts. Apply the technique of observe the thoughts, which means you close your eyes, and be in awareness of every thought that comes up. Open your eyes and write down, whatever thoughts your remember. Every thought has an emotion/s which it is trying to suppress, regulate or control.
14-21 is the arrival of your sexual energy, so any emotion you have had from 0-14 will get amplified in 14-21. Which means it is perfectly fine to continue to access the events of 0-14 which are open for you. As you begin to stay in that space longer you will eventually arrive at your events of 14-21.
If you read chapter emotional body, you will realise that we have only two states – Bliss & Pain. This means the higher you stay in the state of bliss, the deeper you get into the state of pain and the bigger is your consciousness. So there is nothing wrong in experiencing extreme bliss and pain.
There are two parts to this answer:
1) Emotions have motion, which means if you begin to observe your breath with emotion in your awareness the emotion will get grounded. However, it may seem like it is a quick-fix or a band-aid solution, because in doing so, you have not completely arrived at the root cause which can happen through Algorithm
2) So to take a sharper approach, you must first put the situation through which you attracted anger in the format of Algorithm. This will help you understand the origin of emotion. Once this is in your awareness, doing OTB on this would mean attending directly to the root cause.
If you put this in your Algorithm, you will notice that failure is a pattern, which you have experienced. Encountering this pattern would mean addressing your tendency and that would mean having to touch your lack. It is the fear of experiencing the same lack all over again, triggered by the pattern/ situation – Failure.
For e.g. failing in an exam would mean, being rejected, abandoned or neglected by parents. Worry is the emotion of the future. You worry constantly, because you don’t want to come face to face with your lack and feel that way. This often threatens your survival and your mind is now active, as it wants to take some action to ensure that you are in control. Thus always arrive at the root cause with your Algorithm and keep your attention there.
Close your eyes and begin to observe your breath, and now bring attention to this event of loss. You will discover that it triggers a pool of thoughts and emotions which means that this wound is yet not healed. An issue heals if you begin to apply the technique of either OTB or NV Hunting on this event repeatedly. Each time you do it, you will find something from the sub conscious surfacing. What will ideally surface unknowingly is some Karm or belief, which was formed in that event. The secret of healing is, bringing your belief into your awareness and dissolving them. As you do this, the event will begin to neutralize. Hence, it is important to revisit such events no matter how deep or painful they are to heal them from its core.
Emotional body is like a lubricant – the lubricant between spirit and physical body. If we lose access to our spirit, the spirit will seek its expression, taking us to scenarios that give us pain. The pain connects us back to the mystery – the symptoms of our suffering lies in our emotions, which means it is both important to understand and breathe on the emotion. Always attempt to make a flowchart and then breathe on the emotion. However, from time to time you may intuitively feel you want to breathe on it rather than make a flowchart first. Feel free to go by your intuition
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