Pain and Suffering : What Is The Difference?

Pain and bliss are an inevitable and natural phenomenon and we are naturally gifted to experience these two extreme frequencies. When a child is hurt, then he/she experiences pain and cries out as it experiences pain. A child cries out, the pain disappears and the next moment child is ready to play again having no impression of fear of pain.

The same toy, same kids and child is at the same place doing the same thing to experience Joy and bliss by being total in that moment of being playful. However, that is not how we groom our children. We give them a belief that pain is not good and stay away from people/places/situations which give you pain. While as parents you are right to protect children, but mistake happens when we give a belief that you shall not cry when it pains… be strong… boys shall not cry…

And the child learns to suppress the pain inside and it creates internal conflict in a child to suppress pain vis a vis its natural tendency to feel the pain and let it go. This is suffering.

Suffering is the process through which pain is blocked by inducing a belief to help a child survive as a strong, bold person.

As adults, we continue to suffer because we have fixed belief. For example, you have a belief that when you are feeling weak in a moment and you are standing for your loved one, you expect your loved one to openly defend you and fight for you. If not, you believe you are not being protected and loved and you continue to doubt your relationship, your partner’s love for you and suffer. In reality, your partner may have thought of other ways in which he/she wants to protect you than you could think of. Your partner may feel that you do not need protection right now and that he/she knows that when needed it will be given to you without you expecting it…

So suffering is a product of belief that is created by us or given to us as part of our growing up to feel safe, protected and loved but that is exactly what it does not do. While if we allow pain to surface within us. When feeling weak in a moment, we allow that weakness to be felt, we know like a child does that it will automatically get grounded, leaving you fearless and in touch with your divine…

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 “I just have one belief; I do not believe human life is for suffering”

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While drawing our algorithm, we start with identifying our symptoms. Do we look at our symptoms of today or from our childhood? Our tendencies also seem like they are about today and not from our childhood. How should I interpret this?

You can start with identifying your symptoms today and make your Algorithm identifying your Lack, Tendency and Pattern. It may seem like the tendencies are loud and clear today. This is only because as an adult, you are either more aware of it, or the tendency is more pronounced. However, if you go back to that age group of 7-14, you will find that the same tendency existed back then as well.  

For example – your lack is abandonment and so your tendency is need to prove/ excel. As an adult, you try extremely hard to prove yourself at work, but maybe as a ten-year-old you wanted to make sure that you win a colouring competition or feel worthy by collecting the maximum number of berries or fruits. 

 So, you would notice how the nature of tendency existed even back then – sometimes subtly, sometimes pronounced. It is just a matter of developing sensitivity to recognize it in that time and space. However, you can always work with current scenarios. 

Now that I have made my algorithm and have identified my lack, what do I do with this? Do I have to re-visit my childhood?

In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified – 

  1.  You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing 
  2. You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath. 

In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness. 

After finding my LTP and mapping my algorithm, I can see how I have suffered in my childhood and continue to do so. What can I do to remedy this and reverse my suffering?

 Since you are seeking the cure, you must know that state of meditation is the state of cure. The more you are in this state, the more you move towards light, thus curing your suffering.  

All the things which come into your awareness, must now be attended to by Observing your breath. For process of attending to what has surfaced, refer to Ques no 8 

Now that I have made my algorithm and have identified my lack, what do I do with this? Do I have to re-visit my childhood?

In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified – 

  1.  You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing 
  1. You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath. 

In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness.