OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) – A breach of trust
Naveen Varshneya
Founder’s Insights • 18 April 2022, 9:00 AM
OCD is triggered due to a breach of trust. It has two clear components: a) obsessive thoughts b) compulsive thoughts. Compulsive thoughts are the one, which triggers in our mind on their own and we have poor control over their arrival in our conscious mind.
We all have such thoughts all the time due to the disturbance in the emotional body but since the mind is balanced, as the normal person, we can control them and focus on normal life. However, it is an effort. When the intensity and periodicity of such compulsive thoughts become higher and reach a critical mass, they turn obsessive and our control on them is now very fragile.
Compulsive thoughts trigger a state of depression and that further triggers the loss of control on the mind leading it towards obsessive thoughts.
As a child begins to come out of infancy, she begins to have blind faith in her parents as her well-wishers and saviour, hence remaining open and unprotected emotionally towards them as there is no such need to protect self vis-a-vis parents. This is where in some cases things begin to go wrong when a child is scolded by the father.
A scolding from a mother does not do so much damage, in fact on the other hand it makes a child feel safe and wanted because a mother spends so much time with them, plus she feeds the child 3 times a day. Love, care and acceptance flow through food and various gestures.
In your childhood, if you saw your parents fighting, you grow up with fragile trust in the relationship, feeling unsafe and always trying to be on guard to protect yourself. It gets stored in your
subconscious as a belief and when you are in a relationship, any single sign of relationship breaking away alarms you by triggering your belief in the subconscious to trigger thoughts to protect your emotional body which does not want to feel unsafe and lonely again.
Being suspicious about your partner and not trusting is the direct form of OCD, however, OCD appears in many mundane tasks such as obsession to clean the house a few times a day, repeatedly checking house is locked or not. Such occurrence of behaviours is a case, where a person does not have enough courage to accept the breach of trust and its pain and cannot speak about it to the person with whom he perceived breach of trust. Driven by self-pity, diverts OCD towards such behaviour. Regardless, it remains an issue connected with Trust.
Obsessiveness and compulsiveness are two different symptoms of this disorder. Obsessiveness comes from the high ego which has the desire to retain the relationship (survival) and compulsiveness comes from the root cause of trauma (causing insecurity) in childhood. Hence it is the combination of greater need to survive combined with insecurity. The desire to survive remains the single most positive factor in restoring the patient in our treatment.
This is not considered a serious kind of disorder. There is the simple process to reverse the disorder over a period of 3 to 6 weeks to restore their balance of Emotion-Mind-Body and once restores, trauma is converted into pain and acceptance of pain leads to the cure.
