Do not look for a substitute for your parents…

 

 

Chetna 19.0 had the privilege of the Founder addressing the student’s queries in an Open House session in Samekan, as a part of their consolidation. 

 

Student: After losing my parents 5 years ago, I don’t know who I am anymore. I was quite connected to myself but not anymore. How may I work on that? I feel like a different person and am finding it hard to connect. So the heart and mind union, the bliss is missing. 

 

When you lose your mother you lose the earth. 

When you lose your father you lose the sky. 

You become a wanderer. 

 

You are suddenly thrown from a pond to the sea to swim. You have access to an enormous amount of freedom but no direction. You begin to wonder if your life has any more purpose? You continue to remain glued to the mystery that one day all have to leave.  

 

The significance of this event from a soul journey point of view is that you are now liberated from various belief. And you have to rediscover yourself. Your ability to embrace existence grows and vision for your life begins to set in as long you continue to remain with the wonderment and mystery such an event has inflicted on you. 

 

You can never have more pain than that of losing your parents. However, it’s an inevitable occurrence and part of nature. The real question is not why such an event occurred to you but how it is transforming you. Arriving at the pain of loss is the path of light ahead to give you direction. 

 

As you experience this pain with your breath, it eventually will take you towards bliss. The search for bliss after the loss of parents is a search in the wrong direction. The acceptance of this pain will give direction to your freedom. And that – is your path.  

 

Look out for one temptation. Do not look for a substitute for your parents – because there exists no such thing. You will only end up feeling exploited and cheated as you set out on this quest. You will lose your worth in the endless pursuit of their love. 

 

The prahar of 6 to 9 PM supports loss and experiencing existence. Breathe your loss in this prahar. Through the travails of grief and sadness, you will be led to your pain. 

 

Samekan 

 

Samekan is the consolidation of learning. The seeds you sowed for transformation and nurtured for 21 days, if not harvested, may remain open and lose. The rule of manifestation is consolidation and acceptance.  

 

Awareness heals. It arrests suffering to play on you and blocks your pattern. This is what consolidation does. This is why Samekan is essential to learning.  

 

Samekan has the same frequency as the Prahar of 6-9 PM. Consolidation, satisfaction and experiencing the existence of living. If your day remains unconsolidated, you carry the lack into the night and over time, manifest it as suffering. 

 

 

 

 

Responses

While drawing our algorithm, we start with identifying our symptoms. Do we look at our symptoms of today or from our childhood? Our tendencies also seem like they are about today and not from our childhood. How should I interpret this?

You can start with identifying your symptoms today and make your Algorithm identifying your Lack, Tendency and Pattern. It may seem like the tendencies are loud and clear today. This is only because as an adult, you are either more aware of it, or the tendency is more pronounced. However, if you go back to that age group of 7-14, you will find that the same tendency existed back then as well.  

For example – your lack is abandonment and so your tendency is need to prove/ excel. As an adult, you try extremely hard to prove yourself at work, but maybe as a ten-year-old you wanted to make sure that you win a colouring competition or feel worthy by collecting the maximum number of berries or fruits. 

 So, you would notice how the nature of tendency existed even back then – sometimes subtly, sometimes pronounced. It is just a matter of developing sensitivity to recognize it in that time and space. However, you can always work with current scenarios. 

Now that I have made my algorithm and have identified my lack, what do I do with this? Do I have to re-visit my childhood?

In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified – 

  1.  You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing 
  2. You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath. 

In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness. 

After finding my LTP and mapping my algorithm, I can see how I have suffered in my childhood and continue to do so. What can I do to remedy this and reverse my suffering?

 Since you are seeking the cure, you must know that state of meditation is the state of cure. The more you are in this state, the more you move towards light, thus curing your suffering.  

All the things which come into your awareness, must now be attended to by Observing your breath. For process of attending to what has surfaced, refer to Ques no 8 

Now that I have made my algorithm and have identified my lack, what do I do with this? Do I have to re-visit my childhood?

In every moment of disappointment – current or past, you can experience the lack. There are two ways to attend to the lack, once identified – 

  1.  You may simply keep your Algorithm/Lack in awareness by writing the events of the current time and go into breathing 
  1. You can revisit your childhood and write about moments that you experienced the Lack/Algorithm and once you have written a few events (in detail), you may lay down and begin to observe your breath. 

In either of the processes, your Algorithm/lack is in your complete awareness and observing your breath after this would only bring an expansion in your awareness.